The status change. Everyone loves to see who is finally on the market. However, people might not even be interested in dating the new single stud muffin, yet they still want to stick their noses in.
"Aww. Why did you guys break up?"
"Always here if you want to talk!"
"We have to hang out soon, very soon"
It's a guilty pleasure that we all have. Acquaintances whom you haven't talked in a while are now surprisingly instant messaging you. Family members are much more happier when you are around, giving you that 'extra attention'. Friends of the opposite sex are pretending to be concerned, whereas in reality they are doing cart wheels on their front porch. And your single best friends are just waiting to party with you. Break ups don't sound too bad do they? I guess being single isn't so bad either, but why do I still hear single individuals complain about being single? It's because eventually the attention starts to gently fade away. They've partied too much, talked about their ex enough, and hooked up with other people that they aren't totally into enough , and now they've grown to be tired. Enough is enough. They want to have a partner, a companion, and a significant other whom gives them a new different excitement to their lives. These kind of single people tend to have many relationships. If they get too bored of being single, they most likely can get bored of being in relationship too. This is all due to one reason: in a relationship, there is limitations. No more hooking up with other random people, having to sometimes reject partying with friends, and the opposite sex lost interest. To summarize, if there isn't much interest from others, there is no attention on the "In a relationship" status. People don't care how much in love people are. You might hear the occasional.
"Aw, you two are so cute"
"How long have you guys been together?"
"You think you are going to marry them someday?"
Remember these are occasional questions, and the answers to them are just smiles, a quick response and a 'yes' or a 'maybe'. That's all people want to know about your happiness, which is quite depressing how hearing depressing things are much more compelling to others than happy things. Thumps up for channel 24 news. Anyway, being in a relationship after a while can bore the typical relationship status lemur because the attention is not on them anymore. So they break up with their partners, and want the single life back. They want a exciting, adventurous and independent life where all eyes are on them. Then they get bored or lonely again, whatever the excuse is, and start up a relationship again. It's a never ending status change from "In a relationship" to "Single" "In a relationship" to "Single" "In a relationship" to "Single" x10
Therefore, I believe that the most healthy way to avoid to be the relationship status lemur is to put life on pause and look at what we really want in life. Most people want to have that special someone they can grow old with, but we must realize that it's not the end of the world if we haven't found them yet. Being single should be less of partying and hooking up because at the end of the day, when you aren't at club or a bar and you are walking through a local park or watching a movie, or just sitting there in your room, there is some feelings of loneliness. To deal with the loneliness is to accept it for it is. In my opinion, being single can be a self discovery process. Time to ourselves, time to meet new people and able to find that perfect somebody instead of rushing into useless relationships just for the thrill of it.
So for all the singles, heres some ways of how to be alone..
Great post! I can definitely relate! I also agree about how some people enjoy the attention but once it fades, it's no longer fun for them.
Keep on blogging! I have to do get back to it too. LOL
Francis
Thanks Francis! i've read your recent post the other day. Don't worry! I have been slacking too. I'm trying to get back into it. At least one post a week.